pride.
pride is such an ugly thing.
what areas in my life am i blind to where pride is raging? dang. pride is hurtful to other people. it's basically telling others you are better than them. we would never do that outrightly with our words, "I think I am better than you." but our actions say it all the time! it's found in the way we respond to someone, what we deem is important in others and therefore worthy of admiration. we often don't want to ask other people about their lives...b/c, we want to talk about our owns. we're full of pride. we want to talk about ourselves.
my freshman year of college i struggled alot making new friends. my yp's wife gave me advice: "ask questions. People love talking about themeselves." so completely true! if the conversations lulls...ask a question. people can talk about themselves forever.
but...have you ever met someone that is secure within themeselves...so confident...they don't even have to talk about themselves? i'm not talking about those that lack self-confidence to talk about themselves...or those that dont' know how to communicate their feelings...but, i'm talking about those that don't need to advertise themselves. when asked a question...they will answer. but, it's with a gentle self-respect. not from pride.
i think these people gain their confidence from somewhere else. they possess a quiet quality that draws others in. others long to be with them b/c of their composure and lack of need to be affirmed.
do you see what i'm saying? ok...let's take girls as an example. some girls have fairly low self-confidence. they beg for attention or affirmation w/ statements like, 'i shouldn't eat this b/c i'm just so big.' (when they're obviously a stick and they just want someone to tell them it). or...'i am having an awful hair day...' again..the same ploy to get a friend to affirm that it's not true. trite examples, yes. but...just think if you confirmed their insecurity. 'yah...you probably shouldn't eat that... and sorry about that bad hair day.' they might get upset w/ you for AGREEING with them! that's absurd, isn't it?
so...we act in a similiar manner...but, we are blind to the ways we seek this attention. aren't we?
some people demand respect b/c of the position they hold, and others just receive respect b/c of the person they are. i want to be the latter. may my confidence stem, not from others, but from the one who created me.
show me the errors of my way...and the pride that so fills my pores.
what areas in my life am i blind to where pride is raging? dang. pride is hurtful to other people. it's basically telling others you are better than them. we would never do that outrightly with our words, "I think I am better than you." but our actions say it all the time! it's found in the way we respond to someone, what we deem is important in others and therefore worthy of admiration. we often don't want to ask other people about their lives...b/c, we want to talk about our owns. we're full of pride. we want to talk about ourselves.
my freshman year of college i struggled alot making new friends. my yp's wife gave me advice: "ask questions. People love talking about themeselves." so completely true! if the conversations lulls...ask a question. people can talk about themselves forever.
but...have you ever met someone that is secure within themeselves...so confident...they don't even have to talk about themselves? i'm not talking about those that lack self-confidence to talk about themselves...or those that dont' know how to communicate their feelings...but, i'm talking about those that don't need to advertise themselves. when asked a question...they will answer. but, it's with a gentle self-respect. not from pride.
i think these people gain their confidence from somewhere else. they possess a quiet quality that draws others in. others long to be with them b/c of their composure and lack of need to be affirmed.
do you see what i'm saying? ok...let's take girls as an example. some girls have fairly low self-confidence. they beg for attention or affirmation w/ statements like, 'i shouldn't eat this b/c i'm just so big.' (when they're obviously a stick and they just want someone to tell them it). or...'i am having an awful hair day...' again..the same ploy to get a friend to affirm that it's not true. trite examples, yes. but...just think if you confirmed their insecurity. 'yah...you probably shouldn't eat that... and sorry about that bad hair day.' they might get upset w/ you for AGREEING with them! that's absurd, isn't it?
so...we act in a similiar manner...but, we are blind to the ways we seek this attention. aren't we?
some people demand respect b/c of the position they hold, and others just receive respect b/c of the person they are. i want to be the latter. may my confidence stem, not from others, but from the one who created me.
show me the errors of my way...and the pride that so fills my pores.
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