benefits.

i have thought this for some time...but recent circumstances have confirmed my presuppositions that long distance relationships are in some key ways easier than close distanced relationships. why...you ask? well...spectacular question although it seems quite self-evident to me.


--both continue to have their 'own life.' and...when they come together it's usually 'fun.' this is contrasted to when you see each other every day and must do 'mundane' things together....and within these tasks stife is stirred up because of tiredness, stress, etc., on one side. these issues don't arise as easily within long distance relationships...and if they do they can be avoided fairly easily. you can take time to work out problems on own before coming together to discuss them. the intensity of the situation isn't as high. plus, it's easier to not let things bug you over long distances...mostly b/c you don't see their annoying little antics through conversations on the phone.

--you get to know someone through words...you learn how to communicate well with that person verbally. you learn to work through difficulties, not by avoiding the problem, but by talking about it.

--the trust builds through time...and the heart begins to follow and thus it's easy to be ready to make some sort of commitment dispite the problems which may arise when living near/around each other. the 'hump' has been overcome. (this is within close relationships).

these are a few of my observations. these (besides the last) are applied to all long distance relationships. i am for long distance relationships...and always have been. my ideal is to know a guy well...and then begin a relationship over long distance. much easier than attempting to combine both lifes on the outset of the relationship.

i am still for arranged marriages.
i guess it depends on who is picking.

but, anywho...thems my thoughts.

you can disagree, but, i pretty much know i am right.